In my latest reading of Conrad Black's Richard M. Nixon: A Life in Full,
what stood out to me was Black's Monday morning quarterbacking about
what people could have done better. In this post, I'll give four
examples of this, then I will comment.
1. In May 1970, National Guardsman opened fire on
students at Kent State University, as students were protesting President
Richard Nixon's campaign in Cambodia. Four students were killed and
eleven were wounded. Black narrates that the National Guardsmen did
this in response to students who "pursued them, pelting them with rocks
and returning tear gas canisters" (page 671). Black believes that both
the Governor of Ohio and the National Guardsmen acted wrongly in this
situation, and that the National Guardsmen could have solved the problem
in a manner that did not involve bloodshed. Black states on page 671:
"[The
student protesters] were irresponsible and annoying, and the Cambodian
activity did not justify the histrionics it attracted even on
Kissinger's staff, much less the campuses of the country. But the
governor of Ohio had no right comparing this university student
demonstration to Hitler's SA. And he should have assured that the
National Guardsmen had the proper rules of engagement. They should have
had rubber or plastic bullets if tear gas wasn't adequate, and if they
went to live ammunition they should have fired in the air, or even right
on the ground. Student demonstrators are rarely hard to scatter, and
there is no excuse for students to die from gunshot wounds."
2.
There were people within Nixon's Administration who simply did not get
along with each other, and there were some who did not cooperate
adequately with President Nixon's agenda. Henry Kissinger and Secretary
of State William Rogers did not get along. FBI director J. Edgar
Hoover was not doing enough (according to Nixon) to investigate and
undermine domestic radical groups, and even right-winger Pat Buchanan
urged Nixon to retire Hoover immediately, calling Hoover a
"'reactionary' who was alienating the young people of the country and
whose moral authority was steadily evaporating" (Black's summary on page
680). On pages 684-685, Black says how he thinks that Nixon could have
organized his Administration better, such that it would have been more
functional:
"The logical move would have been to move or remove
Rogers and give his job either to Rockefeller or Kissinger himself.
Either would have ended the friction between the White House and the
State Department and enabled the White House to use the resources of the
State Department more extensively. Rockefeller could have managed
Kissinger, but he was becoming rather a defeatist about Vietnam
himself...If Nixon didn't want to reward Rockefeller, or create a
Rockefeller-Kissinger axis right behind his back, he could have found
something else for Rogers, who had no particular aptitude for foreign
affairs other than a conciliatory personality, and given the job to
Kissinger. This was the eventual solution. If Nixon had wanted to make
a dramatic move, he would have retired Hoover, replaced him with
Mitchell, and Mitchell with Rogers; moved out Laird and replaced him
with Shultz, a former marine combat officer in addition to his other
attainments; given State to Kissinger with a lecture to desist from some
of his more irritating practices; given Finch a serious mandate to turn
the new EPA into something important without antagonizing all of
American industry; and prepared either Rockefeller or Reagan, depending
on which way Nixon wanted to push the party, for the vice presidency in
1972...There were plenty of combinations that would work, and these are
just a few of them. Instead, in the unfortunate manner in which things
drifted before events forced Nixon to go into isolation, drink with
Rebozo, watch inspirational military films, and then take draconian
crisis measures bravely, the squabbling of his administration
continued."
3. When President Nixon received the report of Lyndon
Johnson's National Commission on Obscenity and Pornography and saw that
it "concluded that pornography did not contribute to crime,
delinquency, or deviant behavior" (Black on page 696), Nixon was
outraged. He said: "I have evaluated the report and I categorically
reject its morally bankrupt conclusions....Pornography can corrupt a
society and a civilization....Smut...should be outlawed in every state
of the Union." Black states on page 696 that Nixon's response was
inappropriate:
"He could have attacked the report, which was
pretty naive and idealistic, and even insensitive to traditionalists,
without ranting about the suppression of questionable or offensive
literature, which enabled his opponents to conjure up thought police,
intrusions into homes, book burnings, and so forth."
4. In San
Jose, Nixon's car was hit by bricks and bottles that were thrown by
demonstrators. Two days later, Nixon gave a speech in which he said:
"Those who carry a PEACE sign in one hand and a bomb or a brick in the
other are the super-hypocrites of our time." Nixon directed that this
speech be shown on the networks on the eve before the election (in which
Senate and House seats were up for grabs). The Democratic response to
the speech was given by Senator Edmund Muskie, who spoke "calmly against
fear-mongering from a rocking chair in his house at Kennebunkport,
Maine" (page 697). This was a disaster for Nixon. Nixon's speech did
not come across well on account of the "grainy film", "poor acoustics",
and confrontational message (page 697). Meanwhile, Muskie's response
appeared rather cozy and reasonable. Black says that Nixon would have
done better had he shown to the public the news film of the
demonstrators' behavior in San Jose, and then followed that up by
"giving the sort of address that Muskie did" (page 697).
Now for
my comments. On the one hand, Black's Monday morning quarterbacking is
rather annoying.
On the other hand, Black's Monday
morning quarterbacking is interesting. I think that his suggestions are
reasonable, and that Nixon probably would have done better to have done
the sorts of things that Blacks suggests. Something that I ask authors
(in my mind, of course) when I read books is, "So you think he did the
wrong thing. Well, what should he have done instead?" Black offers his
opinion on what Nixon and others should have done instead, and that's
what makes his book insightful and interesting.
Saturday, September 14, 2013
Psalm 125
For my post today about my weekly quiet time, I will blog about Psalm
125. I will post the Psalm in the King James Version (which is in the
public domain), then I will reflect on it.
Psalm 125 states:
They that trust in the LORD shall be as mount Zion, which cannot be removed, but abideth for ever.
2 As the mountains are round about Jerusalem, so the LORD is round about his people from henceforth even for ever.
3 For the rod of the wicked shall not rest upon the lot of the righteous; lest the righteous put forth their hands unto iniquity.
4 Do good, O LORD, unto those that be good, and to them that are upright in their hearts.
5 As for such as turn aside unto their crooked ways, the LORD shall lead them forth with the workers of iniquity: but peace shall be upon Israel.
When was Psalm 125 written? I read commentaries that dated it to Israel's post-exilic period, but does that really work? Vv 1-2 portray Mount Zion as impregnable. Would that make sense, after Jerusalem and the Temple had been destroyed? There does appear to be concern, however, about the wicked possessing the land of the righteous. The Psalm seems to be saying that such a state of affairs will not last. That would make sense during the exile, when foreigners possessed land in Israel. Still, I can't get past vv 1-2!
Perhaps Psalm 125 has the sort of view that is in First Isaiah, where we encounter the inviolability of Zion, mixed with the notion that God will discipline Judah for her sins and will rebuild the nation on a righteous remnant that is in the land. In this scenario, Jerusalem is preserved, yet Judah and Jerusalem are still purified of wicked people. Oppression by the wicked is also a salient theme in First Isaiah. Isaiah 5:8 states: " Woe unto them that join house to house, that lay field to field, till there be no place, that they may be placed alone in the midst of the earth!" Doesn't that sound like the wicked possessing the land of others, the sort of thing that is condemned in Psalm 125?
Perhaps Psalm 125 is pre-exilic and concerns God's preservation of Jerusalem, even as God purifies Israel of evildoers.
Psalm 125 states:
They that trust in the LORD shall be as mount Zion, which cannot be removed, but abideth for ever.
2 As the mountains are round about Jerusalem, so the LORD is round about his people from henceforth even for ever.
3 For the rod of the wicked shall not rest upon the lot of the righteous; lest the righteous put forth their hands unto iniquity.
4 Do good, O LORD, unto those that be good, and to them that are upright in their hearts.
5 As for such as turn aside unto their crooked ways, the LORD shall lead them forth with the workers of iniquity: but peace shall be upon Israel.
When was Psalm 125 written? I read commentaries that dated it to Israel's post-exilic period, but does that really work? Vv 1-2 portray Mount Zion as impregnable. Would that make sense, after Jerusalem and the Temple had been destroyed? There does appear to be concern, however, about the wicked possessing the land of the righteous. The Psalm seems to be saying that such a state of affairs will not last. That would make sense during the exile, when foreigners possessed land in Israel. Still, I can't get past vv 1-2!
Perhaps Psalm 125 has the sort of view that is in First Isaiah, where we encounter the inviolability of Zion, mixed with the notion that God will discipline Judah for her sins and will rebuild the nation on a righteous remnant that is in the land. In this scenario, Jerusalem is preserved, yet Judah and Jerusalem are still purified of wicked people. Oppression by the wicked is also a salient theme in First Isaiah. Isaiah 5:8 states: " Woe unto them that join house to house, that lay field to field, till there be no place, that they may be placed alone in the midst of the earth!" Doesn't that sound like the wicked possessing the land of others, the sort of thing that is condemned in Psalm 125?
Perhaps Psalm 125 is pre-exilic and concerns God's preservation of Jerusalem, even as God purifies Israel of evildoers.
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Friday, September 13, 2013
Jesus the Radical?
I went to my church's Bible study last night. We're going through
the Gospel of Luke right now. The Bible study booklet was saying that
Jesus was seeking to bring about radical change.
Several years ago, I was in another Bible study group. When this group was going through the Gospel of Luke, I said on more than one occasion that Jesus was radical. The group's leader disagreed with me on that. He noted that Jesus was not some flagrant extremist, for Jesus ate with the Pharisees.
Similarly, last night, the question of whether or not Jesus was a radical came up in my church's Bible study on Luke. Our booklet said that Jesus was one who was trying to bring about radical change. But a person in the group, whom I will call Bob (whose past comments I've written about here and here), did not agree with characterizing Jesus as a radical. He said that he did not think that Jesus tried to shove the truth down people's approach, but rather offered them another way of looking at things, leaving it up to them to make up their own minds. He also said that the changes that Jesus makes are subtle, not radical.
I identified a lot with what Bob was saying. For one, it was a good counterbalance to one of the themes that I was hearing last night: that Luke was a slave (or so said Michael Card), and so we should be slaves to God. I'm sure that Bob believes that it's important to keep Christ's commandments, but he also highlights that God respects our free choice. Second, Bob's statement that Jesus makes subtle rather than radical changes in our lives resonated with me, since I'm not exactly sure what "radical" change in my life I should be looking for, according to the religionists who use that term. I would like for there to be changes in me: for example, I'd like to be free from my resentment and less nervous. These are changes, but they're a far cry from me selling all that I have and giving the proceeds to the poor, or me leaving my family.
I think that Jesus was radical, but also subtle and gentle (though, of course, there were times when he rebuked people). Establishing a community that did not privilege people according to their social class was radical, in that day and age. But being in that community entailed simply socializing with other people and showing them respect, which (while socializing is difficult for me) does not exactly strike me as some concept from tim-buk-too: it's radical, but it exhorts us to do something that we can do. It entails a subtle change----from elitism to seeing value in all kinds of people.
Several years ago, I was in another Bible study group. When this group was going through the Gospel of Luke, I said on more than one occasion that Jesus was radical. The group's leader disagreed with me on that. He noted that Jesus was not some flagrant extremist, for Jesus ate with the Pharisees.
Similarly, last night, the question of whether or not Jesus was a radical came up in my church's Bible study on Luke. Our booklet said that Jesus was one who was trying to bring about radical change. But a person in the group, whom I will call Bob (whose past comments I've written about here and here), did not agree with characterizing Jesus as a radical. He said that he did not think that Jesus tried to shove the truth down people's approach, but rather offered them another way of looking at things, leaving it up to them to make up their own minds. He also said that the changes that Jesus makes are subtle, not radical.
I identified a lot with what Bob was saying. For one, it was a good counterbalance to one of the themes that I was hearing last night: that Luke was a slave (or so said Michael Card), and so we should be slaves to God. I'm sure that Bob believes that it's important to keep Christ's commandments, but he also highlights that God respects our free choice. Second, Bob's statement that Jesus makes subtle rather than radical changes in our lives resonated with me, since I'm not exactly sure what "radical" change in my life I should be looking for, according to the religionists who use that term. I would like for there to be changes in me: for example, I'd like to be free from my resentment and less nervous. These are changes, but they're a far cry from me selling all that I have and giving the proceeds to the poor, or me leaving my family.
I think that Jesus was radical, but also subtle and gentle (though, of course, there were times when he rebuked people). Establishing a community that did not privilege people according to their social class was radical, in that day and age. But being in that community entailed simply socializing with other people and showing them respect, which (while socializing is difficult for me) does not exactly strike me as some concept from tim-buk-too: it's radical, but it exhorts us to do something that we can do. It entails a subtle change----from elitism to seeing value in all kinds of people.
Conrad Black's Richard M. Nixon: A Life in Full 20
For my blog post today about Conrad Black's Richard M. Nixon: A Life in Full, I will use as my starting-point something that Black says on page 654:
Nixon "was also always ordering boycotts of writers and television anchors. There was no point to his directed hostility to CBS's Walter Cronkite, NBC's David Brinkley, and Time's Hugh Sidey. They had been in Washington a long time and would still be there long after Nixon left...Nixon should not have paid a moment's attention to any of them, other than normal courtesies when they met."
Hate can be futile. I can hate someone, but that person probably doesn't care one way or the other what I think, so why should I drain myself with my hatred? A person who hates can try to undermine those whom he hates, but then he's opening himself up to retaliation. I have a hard time going to the other extreme and loving my enemies, however, for I really cannot "love" someone towards whom I lack at least some base of emotional affection. Lately, what I've found myself thinking to myself is: "I hate that person. Okay, I don't hate that person, since that person is a human being, like I am. But I don't love that person, either. Come to think of it, I don't even have to think about that person!"
Nixon "was also always ordering boycotts of writers and television anchors. There was no point to his directed hostility to CBS's Walter Cronkite, NBC's David Brinkley, and Time's Hugh Sidey. They had been in Washington a long time and would still be there long after Nixon left...Nixon should not have paid a moment's attention to any of them, other than normal courtesies when they met."
Hate can be futile. I can hate someone, but that person probably doesn't care one way or the other what I think, so why should I drain myself with my hatred? A person who hates can try to undermine those whom he hates, but then he's opening himself up to retaliation. I have a hard time going to the other extreme and loving my enemies, however, for I really cannot "love" someone towards whom I lack at least some base of emotional affection. Lately, what I've found myself thinking to myself is: "I hate that person. Okay, I don't hate that person, since that person is a human being, like I am. But I don't love that person, either. Come to think of it, I don't even have to think about that person!"
Thursday, September 12, 2013
Conrad Black's Richard M. Nixon: A Life in Full 19
For my blog post today about Conrad Black's Richard M. Nixon: A Life in Full,
I will use as my starting-point something that Black says on page 614.
The context is the aftermath of a June 10, 1969 press conference that
Nixon gave about the Vietnam War.
"It was a very strong performance, and Nixon engaged in what would become a drearily predictable habit: telephoning supporters to a late hour asking them how they thought he had done. It is astonishing that a man of Nixon's intelligence would not realize how this demonstrable insecurity, when all he had to do was wait for a few hours and he would learn how people thought he had done, would undermine the confidence of his staff."
How are we doing? Many of us would like to receive positive feedback, or some indication that we are on the right track. Sometimes, we get that in this world. At other times, we don't, and we're left wondering how exactly we are doing, and what we can do better. I don't think that Nixon was always paralyzed by insecurity about how he was doing. When he was a Congressman investigating the Alger Hiss case, for example, he just did the work that he needed to do, even though he did not know what the exact outcome would be in terms of his own political career. (Even Roger Morris, who is quite critical of Nixon, acknowledges this.) That's a good rule of thumb: just keep on doing the work, sowing the seeds, hoping that there will be a harvest. If you try, you may or may not succeed; if you don't try, you won't succeed. While being a self-starter is commendable, though, it's still nice to get a pat on the back, every once in a while.
"It was a very strong performance, and Nixon engaged in what would become a drearily predictable habit: telephoning supporters to a late hour asking them how they thought he had done. It is astonishing that a man of Nixon's intelligence would not realize how this demonstrable insecurity, when all he had to do was wait for a few hours and he would learn how people thought he had done, would undermine the confidence of his staff."
How are we doing? Many of us would like to receive positive feedback, or some indication that we are on the right track. Sometimes, we get that in this world. At other times, we don't, and we're left wondering how exactly we are doing, and what we can do better. I don't think that Nixon was always paralyzed by insecurity about how he was doing. When he was a Congressman investigating the Alger Hiss case, for example, he just did the work that he needed to do, even though he did not know what the exact outcome would be in terms of his own political career. (Even Roger Morris, who is quite critical of Nixon, acknowledges this.) That's a good rule of thumb: just keep on doing the work, sowing the seeds, hoping that there will be a harvest. If you try, you may or may not succeed; if you don't try, you won't succeed. While being a self-starter is commendable, though, it's still nice to get a pat on the back, every once in a while.
Wednesday, September 11, 2013
Conrad Black's Richard M. Nixon: A Life in Full 18
In my post today about Conrad Black's Richard M. Nixon: A Life in Full,
I will talk about Richard Nixon's relationship with French President
Charles de Gaulle. Here are some passages, but I will not provide
context for them, since I don't want to get into the weeds of de
Gaulle's geopolitical views.
Page 389: "Eisenhower and his immediate successors did not...figure out how to deal with de Gaulle (but Nixon did)."
Page 589: After discussing the deteriorating relationship between France and the U.S. under President Lyndon Johnson, Black says that "Nixon was the sixth American president de Gaulle dealt with, and his relationship promised to be the most productive and amicable of all."
Page 604: "[Nixon] invited de Gaulle to come to the United States and added, 'In this age of mediocre leaders in most of the world, America's spirit needs your presence.' It's doubtful that the rancorous students...would have found much balm in de Gaulle's grandiloquence or erudition, but what Nixon meant was that he would have valued it himself."
Nixon did not exactly have the best social skills in the world, but he still got along with Charles de Gaulle, at a level far beyond what other U.S. Presidents did. This, according to Conrad Black, was no easy task. Presidents Eisenhower, Kennedy, and Johnson did not really know how they should deal with de Gaulle. It wasn't always a matter of a lack of mutual cordiality, mind you. Johnson apparently did not have a good relationship with de Gaulle, but Black states that de Gaulle "liked but disagreed with Kennedy", and that de Gaulle's "relations with Eisenhower...had been cordial but inconclusive" (page 588). According to Black, de Gaulle had the same sort of relationship with Truman that he had with Eisenhower, and his relations with FDR "were just warming up...after a very difficult start, when Roosevelt died" (page 588). But de Gaulle had a good relationship with Nixon.
And Nixon apparently had a genuine regard and admiration for de Gaulle. As Black says on page 604, Nixon wanted de Gaulle to come to the United States because Nixon felt that he needed him, amidst all of the turmoil that the United States was experiencing at the time.
Sometimes, it's the case that a socially-awkward person can succeed in developing and maintaining a rapport with a particular individual, whereas those who are expert charmers either struggle to do so, or flat out fail. Why is this? There are probably a variety of reasons. First of all, a particular individual may be able to smell BS a mile away, and he's not open to being manipulated by charmers. He'd prefer the company of someone who is low-key and yet real, especially if that person has a genuinely high regard for him. Second, perhaps de Gaulle and Nixon were drawn to each other on account of their similar personalities. As Nixon says in Leaders, de Gaulle was quite reserved. So was Nixon.
Page 389: "Eisenhower and his immediate successors did not...figure out how to deal with de Gaulle (but Nixon did)."
Page 589: After discussing the deteriorating relationship between France and the U.S. under President Lyndon Johnson, Black says that "Nixon was the sixth American president de Gaulle dealt with, and his relationship promised to be the most productive and amicable of all."
Page 604: "[Nixon] invited de Gaulle to come to the United States and added, 'In this age of mediocre leaders in most of the world, America's spirit needs your presence.' It's doubtful that the rancorous students...would have found much balm in de Gaulle's grandiloquence or erudition, but what Nixon meant was that he would have valued it himself."
Nixon did not exactly have the best social skills in the world, but he still got along with Charles de Gaulle, at a level far beyond what other U.S. Presidents did. This, according to Conrad Black, was no easy task. Presidents Eisenhower, Kennedy, and Johnson did not really know how they should deal with de Gaulle. It wasn't always a matter of a lack of mutual cordiality, mind you. Johnson apparently did not have a good relationship with de Gaulle, but Black states that de Gaulle "liked but disagreed with Kennedy", and that de Gaulle's "relations with Eisenhower...had been cordial but inconclusive" (page 588). According to Black, de Gaulle had the same sort of relationship with Truman that he had with Eisenhower, and his relations with FDR "were just warming up...after a very difficult start, when Roosevelt died" (page 588). But de Gaulle had a good relationship with Nixon.
And Nixon apparently had a genuine regard and admiration for de Gaulle. As Black says on page 604, Nixon wanted de Gaulle to come to the United States because Nixon felt that he needed him, amidst all of the turmoil that the United States was experiencing at the time.
Sometimes, it's the case that a socially-awkward person can succeed in developing and maintaining a rapport with a particular individual, whereas those who are expert charmers either struggle to do so, or flat out fail. Why is this? There are probably a variety of reasons. First of all, a particular individual may be able to smell BS a mile away, and he's not open to being manipulated by charmers. He'd prefer the company of someone who is low-key and yet real, especially if that person has a genuinely high regard for him. Second, perhaps de Gaulle and Nixon were drawn to each other on account of their similar personalities. As Nixon says in Leaders, de Gaulle was quite reserved. So was Nixon.
Tuesday, September 10, 2013
Conrad Black's Richard M. Nixon: A Life in Full 17
My blog post today about Conrad Black's Richard M. Nixon: A Life in Full will focus on the use of humor to defuse tensions. Here are two incidents that Black discusses, followed by my reflections:
1. Within the Nixon Administration, there were differences of opinion between Arthur Burns, a conservative, who would later go on to become chairman of the Federal Reserve, and Daniel Patrick Moynihan, a liberal, who would later go on to serve as a United States Senator. Both served under President Richard Nixon as advisers on domestic policy. On page 579, Black mentions an example of Moynihan one time managing to defuse tension between himself and Burns with humor:
"The Urban Affairs Council met for the first time on January 23. Nixon signed the executive order setting it up and introduced Moynihan. Burns, who had thought he would be running domestic policy, asked Moynihan if he would produce an urban policy outline. Moynihan, with the splendid Irish charm that never deserted him, replied that he would be glad to do so, provided that 'no one take it seriously.' Moynihan's mirthful erudition took the edge off possible abrasions with Burns, and his council got down to serious policy work."
2. On page 587, Black tells the story of a time when President Richard Nixon was invited to the British prime minister Harold Wilson's place of residence for a private dinner. The problem was that the recently-appointed British ambassador to the United States, John Freeman, would be there, and Freeman as editor of the socialist New Statesman had written "extremely acidulous comments about" Nixon (Black's words). Nixon aide H.R. Haldeman attempted to get Freeman disinvited from the dinner, but David K.E. Bruce, an American diplomat, said that "it was not Haldeman's place to say whom the British prime minister could have to dinner in his own house" (Black's words).
The outcome of all this was that both Nixon and Freeman came to the dinner, and Nixon said: "They say there's a new Nixon...and a new Freeman. Let me set aside all possibility of embarrassment because our roles have changed. He's the new diplomat and I'm the new statesman." Black says this broke the tension, and Wilson wrote on his menu a message to Nixon: "That was one of the kindest and most generous acts I have known in a quarter-century of politics". Wilson also called Nixon a "born gentleman."
3. How adept am I at using humor to defuse tensions? Not very. I'm not that good on my feet. There are things that I say, however, that strike people as funny, even though I don't intend them to be funny. That breaks the tension. But I don't particularly appreciate being laughed at.
How about when people use humor on me in an attempt to defuse tension? To be honest, I don't particularly appreciate that, at least not all of the time. Maybe it is better than being yelled at or having an argument with someone. But I sometimes feel when someone uses humor on me to defuse tension that I am not being listened to, or that my concerns are being trivialized, or that I am being made fun of. Maybe I'm even resentful that somebody else, and not me, is being the bigger person.
Anyway, that's my whining for the day.
1. Within the Nixon Administration, there were differences of opinion between Arthur Burns, a conservative, who would later go on to become chairman of the Federal Reserve, and Daniel Patrick Moynihan, a liberal, who would later go on to serve as a United States Senator. Both served under President Richard Nixon as advisers on domestic policy. On page 579, Black mentions an example of Moynihan one time managing to defuse tension between himself and Burns with humor:
"The Urban Affairs Council met for the first time on January 23. Nixon signed the executive order setting it up and introduced Moynihan. Burns, who had thought he would be running domestic policy, asked Moynihan if he would produce an urban policy outline. Moynihan, with the splendid Irish charm that never deserted him, replied that he would be glad to do so, provided that 'no one take it seriously.' Moynihan's mirthful erudition took the edge off possible abrasions with Burns, and his council got down to serious policy work."
2. On page 587, Black tells the story of a time when President Richard Nixon was invited to the British prime minister Harold Wilson's place of residence for a private dinner. The problem was that the recently-appointed British ambassador to the United States, John Freeman, would be there, and Freeman as editor of the socialist New Statesman had written "extremely acidulous comments about" Nixon (Black's words). Nixon aide H.R. Haldeman attempted to get Freeman disinvited from the dinner, but David K.E. Bruce, an American diplomat, said that "it was not Haldeman's place to say whom the British prime minister could have to dinner in his own house" (Black's words).
The outcome of all this was that both Nixon and Freeman came to the dinner, and Nixon said: "They say there's a new Nixon...and a new Freeman. Let me set aside all possibility of embarrassment because our roles have changed. He's the new diplomat and I'm the new statesman." Black says this broke the tension, and Wilson wrote on his menu a message to Nixon: "That was one of the kindest and most generous acts I have known in a quarter-century of politics". Wilson also called Nixon a "born gentleman."
3. How adept am I at using humor to defuse tensions? Not very. I'm not that good on my feet. There are things that I say, however, that strike people as funny, even though I don't intend them to be funny. That breaks the tension. But I don't particularly appreciate being laughed at.
How about when people use humor on me in an attempt to defuse tension? To be honest, I don't particularly appreciate that, at least not all of the time. Maybe it is better than being yelled at or having an argument with someone. But I sometimes feel when someone uses humor on me to defuse tension that I am not being listened to, or that my concerns are being trivialized, or that I am being made fun of. Maybe I'm even resentful that somebody else, and not me, is being the bigger person.
Anyway, that's my whining for the day.
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